I hate you. You’re the dumbest person I’ve ever met. I wish you were never born.
We’ve all heard these things said, said them ourselves, or know someone who has been told this. It’s amazing the impact that simple words can have on a person. They can make you feel like the most special person alive one moment and literally the worst a moment later.

James 3:3-10- We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong. In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell (Gehenna) itself.
People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison. Sometimes it praises our Lord and Father, and sometimes it curses those who have been made in the image of God. And so blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth. Surely, my brothers and sisters, this is not right!
James is warning/preparing/sympathizing to us and with us the potential that lies within our tongue. It’s the smallest member of our body but holds the most potential, both for good and for bad. The horse moves and the ship sails with the smallest use of force but the tongue cannot be controlled.
The tongue is a product of what is in our heart.
Why is it so difficult to control the tongue? Within Christianity we are not able to ask questions and the tongue brings about hate, anger, and division because the religious type gets uneasy when their faith is questioned. Anything that is worthwhile can hold up to intense scrutiny, questions, and doubt.

The tongue should bring life. Life in doubt. LIfe in certainty. Life in community. Life in honesty. Life in love.
Every aspect of our lives should be led in love and every word we speak should bring life. Our works do nothing for us except that our works come from the grace given to us by God. When we show kindness to those around us, we show Christ. When we speak life, we speak Christ.
I saw a church sign today that said, “God loves you. Get used to it.”
No thanks. If I weren’t a Christian, I think I’d laugh and say, “Stupid Christians.” They’re right. God loves me so I should get used to it…. although He only loves me if I love Him back. Because if I don’t love Him back, He will punish me forever.
I saw a different church sign yesterday that said, “God loves you anyways.” I like this because it’s true. God loves you regardless of whether or not you love Him and that is speaking life to those around us. True love has no end game and loves even if the person never changes or agrees with you. There are no strings attached.
I love you. You are a really talented person. I’m glad you are my friend.

“We are now so far from the road to truth, that religious teachers dispute and hate each other, and speculative men are esteemed unsound and frivolous.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson (“Nature” 1836)